The moment she sees someone validating her she starts giving them a lot of importance and eventually becomes dependent on them. When a guy sees that a woman is now dependent on him (and that she will not go away no matter whatever he tells her or however he treats her) he starts to take her for granted. This makes the woman irritated, agitated and insecure. It arises in her the fear of losing the guy which makes her more dependent on him. Hence, giving more power to the guy in a relationship. By this time the guy starts feeling suffocated in the relationship and starts looking for avenues to either get out of the relationship or cheat on her. In such cases there are also good chances of abuse; emotional, physical, financial or even sexual abuse.
HOW TO BREAK THE CYCLE OF FINDING WRONG MEN?
The only way to break through the cycle of finding wrong men for yourself is recognizing your own self worth and understand your own value. When you do that you never put yourself in front of petty men to approve you. You feel complete within yourself. And then when you look for a partner it is not to complete yourself or to make you feel worthy but to share your worthiness with someone.
Now developing that faith and strong sense of self in oneself is easier said than done. The way you look at yourself and value yourself doesn’t change overnight. It takes self work and constant introspection and fixing all that inside of you that you making you feel small.
I am a Counseling Psychologist and work with women who face relationship issues. I’ve tried sharing my experience and understanding that I have gathered working with my clients. Hope this helps you. If you need further help in terms of online counseling you can write to me personally.